After jumping out of an airplane 13,000 feet high and falling back down to earth at 120 mph, my friends started asking me how they can get over their fears.
Like the fear of quitting their job and pursuing their startup full-time.
They want me to say something to make their anxiety disappear, but my answer disappoints most people.
Instead of ignoring our fears, we should pay closer attention to them. There's good reason to notice their patterns.
We need to feel our relationship to it, see how it works when it does and why it doesn't when it doesn't.
Only then can we start the process of reverse-engineering, dissecting, and observing it to better understand how to leverage this emotion to improve our lives.
It might just mean you need to look before you leap.
Because when you crack it open, and look deeper into what's inside them, you'll discover that you don't actually fear the unknown.
It's impossible to fear something that you don't know.
So what you actually fear is losing what you do know.
And what is learning but sacrificing the things you used to believe and the ways you used to think, and replacing those with new truths.
Fear points to an area where you have not yet grown, where you need to develop, and be transformed to change.
So don't just tell yourself to get over a fear or ignore it.
Know that whatever scares you, you need to go do that.
It’s the only way it won't scare you anymore.